Listen to Your Heart, Not Your Reason!
Or, as the saying goes: “The heart has its reasons, which reason does not know.”
Could there be a wisdom of the heart, distinct from that of our mind—perhaps complementary, yet undeniably essential?
Could it be that we are largely conditioned by our thoughts, beliefs, and logic—that is, by our fears, uncertainties, anxieties, and phobias as well (after all, these are direct products of our brain’s activity)?
And finally, could it be that we listen too much to one and not enough to the other ? That an imbalance leads us to favor one over the other ?
When we look around, what do we see ? Do most people seem to prioritize the heart or the mind ?
And by the way, what does it even mean to “listen to your heart” ?
This is a subject that has sparked debates for centuries. We love to separate—even oppose—rationality, logic, and objectivity to recklessness, imagination, and arbitrariness.
The cautious mind against the carefree heart… or perhaps the unconscious heart ?
Of course, when we need to leave on time, check the schedule, estimate travel time, book tickets, or fill up the gas tank to avoid missing an appointment with a friend, using all the organizational tools at our disposal seems like common sense.
But when we start questioning the meeting itself (Should I go or not ?), its relevance in our life’s journey (What is my relationship with this person ? What do they bring to me ? What can I offer them ? Am I in a space of freedom, creativity, and sharing, or just seeking distraction ? Am I actually avoiding my own solitude ?), its role in fulfilling our needs (They listen to me, they entertain me, they make me laugh, they understand me), or the attachment and subconscious hopes we invest in this relationship (Is it a friendship ? A romance ? A deeper connection ?), things get seriously complicated, don’t they ?
Finding a train schedule is one thing. But answering all these questions sensibly ? Now, that’s no easy task !
Follow Your Heart or Listen to Your Reason ?
What Does the Heart Have to Do with All This?
If we take another look at the questions raised earlier (which are far from exhaustive), what do we notice?
First, that the answers will differ from one individual to another. Subjective, then.
Second, that they deal with my relationship to others, my needs, my desires, my expectations, my emotions—in other words, my entire psycho-emotional sphere. Not necessarily rational either.
Finally, that these questions touch on existential concerns (my purpose in life, what drives me daily, what I am capable of giving and receiving, the truth of a relationship, the authenticity and sincerity with which I experience it), which belong to the realms of spirituality, philosophy, and personal development—rather than mathematics or molecular physics. Once again, a form of wisdom that does not rely on pure logic.
It is in the deep reasons that bind us to others and to ourselves that the heart will guide us. Of course, this does not mean disconnecting our mind, which remains an invaluable tool for sorting, analyzing, and comparing, equally contributing to our common sense.
The Heart to the Rescue?
I can’t resist telling you about one of my patients who came to see me for very serious health problems: cardiac arrhythmia, ventricular extrasystole, tachycardia, along with anxiety, restlessness, and insomnia. In total, three surgeries, with a fourth one scheduled for the year.
The most curious part of this story is that this person had no prior health issues—until a romantic encounter brought him face-to-face with someone who had all of these symptoms. But that’s not all!
Just a few days after meeting this person, my patient started experiencing all these ailments, while at the same time, his partner began losing them one by one!
It would be an interesting topic for discussion—if not for the fact that real people were suffering behind it.
Heart as Captain, Reason as First Mate
The healing session, the result of several hours of investigation, led to the obvious realization that, over the years (for very personal reasons that we had to uncover), the young man’s mind had almost completely stifled his heart.
His heart had found a way to express itself upon meeting this young woman. She had, in a way, inspired him. He saw in this encounter an undeniable means (provided he understood the message) to turn things around and embrace a wonderful opportunity to let the heart be the source of every thought, every word, and every action.
Can you imagine the tremendous mistake of trying to silence this heart at all costs, when all it wanted was to be heard?
And beyond the healing process itself, this naturally implied a profound life change: making the heart the captain and the mind the first mate. Career, relationships, place of residence—everything was reconsidered!
But what a beautiful message!
One might think it sounds too simple, or too good to be true.
But you know what? A few weeks later, after following all the recommendations, this person was completely healed. An incredible lesson, isn’t it? And one that concerns us all.
So, when the body speaks to us, let’s not try to silence it—let’s listen, with the utmost attention!
Don’t wait any longer—take charge of your health, believe in healing, whatever form it may take, and give yourself the means to feel better. You have the power to heal—claim it.